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If you are looking for resources to provide you with practical help and exercises in overcoming anxiety, stress management, assertiveness training or coping with depression, life skills and personal growth topics then the following books will be useful. Also check out the range of relaxation therapy tapes that are available.

Self Help Books Available:

'Know Your Strengths and Be Confident'
Practical guide for overcoming lack of confidence, feelings of insecurity inadequacy and low self-esteem. Click here for a full review

'From Strength to Strength'
Practical guide to help get the most out of life. This includes increasing peace of mind, coping with change, growth steps and attaining goals. Click here for a full review

'At Peace With Yourself '
Practical guide to bringing calmness and balance to your life. Includes coming to terms with grief, handling negative feelings, and expressing anger, your personal triangle of functioning. Click here for a full review

'How to Lead and Motivate Others'
Key skills for effective leadership, team building, motivation, stress management and basic assertiveness training. Focussed toward the business workplace. Click here for a full review

'Relax and Come Alive'
Practical guide for helping to relax with guidance on stress management. Includes stress reducers and better functioning and depression help. Click here for a full review

'Understanding Difficult People'
Practical guide for recognising, understanding and relating to difficult people, whether it be teen stress, family members or that colleague at work. Specific guidelines and strategies are suggested for developing positive relationships with others. Click here for a full review

'You Can Communicate'
Practical guide to confident personal and group communication. Offering a combination of practical skills and psychological insight in a common sense approach that will help to develop the ability to relate to and communicate with others in a positive way. Click here for a full review

'You Can Do It!'
Practical guide to setting and accomplishing your career and life goals, how to motivate yourself and achieve your goals. This book is illustrated with key studies incorporating exercises to work through the fifteen key steps to self motivation. Click here for a full review

'Your Marriage Can Work'
An easy-to-read practical guide to marriage happiness. It covers areas of quality communication, trust, acceptance, dealing with negative feelings, money, sex and reconciling your needs with your partner's. Each chapter contains suggestions and exercises for improvement. Click here for a full review

'15 Steps to Overcoming Anxiety and Depression'
A practical, self-help programme designed for anyone needing depression help or suffering from any general anxiety disorder. This book is down-to-earth, easy to follow and, above all, effective. This book is often used as a back-up for medical and counselling services. Click here for a full review

'Dare to be Yourself'
A top finalist in a nationwide book competition - in Textbook form ($20.00).
Iris shares what makes life work for her - including her near death experience and what she learnt from it - in this down-to-earth book.
Full of essential life skills And positive tools that work.
This book will take you one step further along your growth path.
Click here for a full review

'Stressbreakers@work'
A new comprehensive textbook on stress management.

Iris has written a new book on stress and how to overcome it.
Every manager and staff member should have a copy.
It is suitable for the private individual and business person.
Practical workable exercises to reduce stress are given in every chapter. The anti-stress tools given really work!..
Click here for a full review

How to Purchase Iris' Self Help Books:

All Iris' books can be purchased by Phone, Email, On-Line Banking, Direct Credit or Postal, (See Shopping page for more details).

Iris Barrow is a New Zealand author of 12 books and 8 tapes. Iris is also a counsellor and human resources consultant and has a client base ranging from corporate groups to individuals. She has extensive experience in psychological counselling, coaching, mentoring, life-skills training, staff training and presenting seminars

Know Your Strengths and Be Confident

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790004895
Pages : 91

Lack of confidence is the biggest single factor that prevents people from growing and achieving. The feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, often experienced as a result of low self-esteem, can cause suffering in every area of life.

Know Your Strengths and Be Confident is designed to be used as a step-by step course to help you to become a more confident and fully functioning individual.

Through following the methods outlined in each chapter you will learn to accept and value yourself as you should. Once you begin to feel inwardly secure, your ability to handle relationships and day-to-day situations and problems will immediately improve.

Only when you are truly able to 'know your own strengths and be confident' will you discover-and reach your full potential.

Know Your Strengths and Be Confident is the first of Iris Barrow's personal growth books. From Strength to Strength is the second and At Peace With Yourself is the third.
These 3 make a series, each one taking you one step further - yet each 'stand alone' in their own right.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: From Strength to Strength and At Peace with Yourself!

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From Strength to Strength

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790001721
Pages : 172

This is a book for people who want to get the most out of life and reach their full potential. It shows that to be successful in what you do, you must first 'become successful within'.

To put you on the path to fulfillment, Iris Barrow outlines simple steps that will enable you to increase your confidence, self-esteem and peace of mind, to cope better with change, extend yourself, and attain your goals.

The ultimate aim is to become a person who moves from strength to strength!

This message is reinforced with down-to-earth case studies and practical do-it-yourself exercises. These are based not on theory, but on practical experience and know-how gained from the years Iris Barrow has spent successfully helping people through both personal counselling and seminars.

If consistently applied, these methods really work!

From Strength to Strength is the second of Iris Barrow's personal growth books. Know Yourself and Be Confident is the first and At Peace with Yourself is the third.
These 3 make a series, each one taking you one step further on - yet each 'stand alone' in their own right.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: Know Yourself and Be Confident and At Peace With Yourself.

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At Peace With Yourself

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0473037661
Pages : 177

This book is all about feelings :
- dealing with anger
- the feeling and handling of grief
- what to do with our powerful negative emotions
- working towards healing and wholeness
- our triangle of feelings, logic and will
- the inner balance

How out-of-balance is your triangle?
How you can balance it to function and feel better and how can you recognise an out-of-balance triangle in others?

Do you sometimes feel things are going wrong, but you find yourself unable to put them right?
At Peace with Yourself explains in plain language with relatable examples, how to bring calmness and balance to your life.

At Peace With Yourself is the third of Iris Barrow's personal growth books. Know Yourself and Be Confident is the first and From Strength to Strength is the second.
These 3 make a series, each one taking you one step further - yet each 'stand alone' in their own right.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: Know Your Strengths and Be Confident and From Strength to Strength

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How to Lead and Motivate Others

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790004755
Pages : 207

Does your workforce feel valued?
Do the people in it believe they are part of a team?
Do they share your vision?
Are they working for the same goals?

Iris Barrow brings together her wide experience working with businesses to address the problem of how to lead and motivate other people effectively.

By first looking at why people on the workforce lose motivation and enthusiasm, she identifies the skills necessary for strong and effective leadership, avoiding patterns that demotivate others.

Using case studies to illustrate commonly-encountered problems, she discusses team building and motivation, establishing group vision and goals, preparing for change, dealing with stress, delegation, and other important keys to good leadership.
Skills learnt are reinforced with checklists and exercises.

How to Lead and Motivate Others compliments Iris Barrow's book on personal motivation and goal-setting, You Can Do It! and is essential reading for all managers or anyone involved in leadership.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: You Can Do It!

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Relax and Come Alive

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0868634441
Pages : 115

This invaluable guide will teach you how to relax, manage stress in your life and avoid stress-related illnesses.
The authors teach the basics of relaxation in a simple, easy to grasp way.
They demonstrate that the skill of relaxation can be learnt relatively quickly.

With a little effort and consistency, you can master relaxation skills and fully come alive!

Learn about :
- Others in your working life.
- Looking at your lifestyle.
- Recognising reduced work fitness.
- Quality of life etc.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: 15 Steps to Overcoming Anxiety and Depression.

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Understanding Difficult People

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790005670
Pages : 172

Do you know how to deal with difficult people? Especially those who are aggressive, manipulative, passive, demanding, unfair, etc?

This book will teach you how to understand difficult people.
It gives you simple easy-to-use steps to address problem situations with them.
It aims to improve your life and relationships by using specific strategies.

Other people sometimes seem so difficult! Whether it is that rude sales assistant, the know-all who dominates the conversation at a party, the colleague at work who makes life so unpleasant for everybody, or even a loved one who is particularly awkward from time to time, people with a different way of behaving can be very upsetting.

Difference is frequently the key. The problem may simply be that someone else has another way of doing things, or a different view of the world.
This is most obvious with people from other cultures, socio-economic groups or religions.
Learning to appreciate where they are coming from can broaden our own perspective and offer us new solutions.

Even more common are those behaviours that stem from others' insecurities. The introverted teenager, the bragging neighbour and that very difficult person you report to at work, may all be trying to hide an underlying belief that somehow they are 'not good enough'.
Recognising and understanding the signs can revolutionise the way we deal with these people!
The practical skills and approaches outlined in Understanding Difficult People gives us further power to break through their self-imposed barriers.

Iris Barrow draws from her wealth of experience in counselling and organisational training programs to identify the types of people whom we might find 'difficult' and offers very specific guidelines and strategies for developing positive relationships with others.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: You Can Communicate and How to Lead and Motivate Others.

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You Can Communicate

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790002027
Pages : 126

Our ability to relate effectively to other people hinges very much on our ability to communicate with them.
The way in which we share our thoughts, opinions, ideas and feelings greatly affects the degree of rapport between us.

Lack of confidence in our ability to communicate can express itself in many ways: feeling ill-at-ease and tongue-tied with strangers, being unable to stand up for one's rights, or to reach out to others when in need; being crippled with shyness, or afraid of speaking public.

Communication is a skill, and just like any other skill, it can be learned.
The benefits are numerous and include improved family relationships, progress at work, increased self-assurance in social situations and the confidence to cope with public speaking.
You Can Communicate offers a combination of practical skills and psychological insight in a commonsense approach that will help you develop the ability to relate to and communicate with others in a relaxed and positive way.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: Understanding Difficult People and Know Your Strengths and Be Confident

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You Can Do It!
All about Goal Setting and Motivation

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790003104
Pages : 132

Having a vision for your life, setting goals to achieve the vision and motivating yourself to reach these goals are fundamental steps towards personal fulfilment and success.
It is never too late to start!

You Can Do It! is a practical guide to setting and accomplishing your career and life goals.
Illustrated with case studies and incorporating exercises to work through, it explores :
- How to set goals and motivate yourself for success.
- The need to take control of your life and aim for the best.
- Building confidence and self esteem.
- The role of self-discipline.
- Positive thinking .
- Taking risks.
- And how to beat stress.

Fifteen key steps to self motivation provide a ready reference point for everyone wishing to remain highly motivated to achieve their goals.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: How to Lead and Motivate Others

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Your Marriage Can Work

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790002035
Pages : 211

Your Marriage Can Work is an easy-to-read guide to improving your marriage.
From the moment you read the first chapter you will receive positive help!

This book covers such vital subjects as :
- Quality communciation,
- trust and acceptance,
- dealing with negative feelings
- attitudes to money,
- problems with sex
- and reconciling your needs with those of your partner's.

Case studies are used throughout to highlight particular problems and each chapter contains suggestions and exercises for improvement.

Simply reading Your Marriage Can Work will change your marriage for the better.
However, if you use the book as a twenty-week course, your relationship will derive the maximum benefit that this book an offer.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: You Can Communicate

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15 Steps to Overcome Anxiety and Depression

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790004909
Pages : 161

You don't have to live with anxiety or depression!

This book brings new hope to those who are anxious and depressed.
It's practical self-help program is down-to-earth, easy to follow and, above all, effective!

15 Steps to Overcome Anxiety and Depression provides techniques for :
- relaxation,
- building self-esteem,
- coping with fear,
- taking constructive action in the face of negative feelings,
- goal-setting and motivation,
- achieving realistic expectations of oneself,
and many other useful tips for promoting a more positive and confident approach to life.

Since it was published in 1985, 15 Steps has proved an invaluable tool for thousands of depressed and anxious people, as well as for family and friends seeking insight into the sufferer's behaviour.

It also forms a useful back-up for medical or counselling services.

ALSO RECOMMENDED: Know Your Strengths and Be Confident, From Strength to Strength

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Dare to be Yourself

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790004909
Pages : 170

A top finalist in a nationwide book competition - in textbook form $28.00.

In it, Iris shares the philosophy and keys to living fully which make life work for her.
Infinitely practical and grounded, it gives the tools which lead to a fulfilled and happy life. In it she shares her near death experience, how she came out of it and what she learnt from it, as well as the importance of love as a positive force in our lives.
This book will take you along a personal growth journey which will show you the steps to a more peaceful and productive living.

Full of case studies, positive strategies that work, and down-to-earth life skills. If you've read and enjoyed her other books - this one will take you one step further.

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Stressbreakers@work

Price : NZ $28.00 - plus postage & packaging
ISBN# : 0790004909
Pages : 72

A new comprehensive textbook on stress management.

Iris has written a new book on stress and how to overcome it.
Every manager and staff member should have a copy.
It is suitable for the private individual and business person.
Practical workable exercises to reduce stress are given in every chapter. The anti-stress tools given really work!.
$28.00 per book - Big Discounts on orders of 6 or more. On orders of 6 or more you may send for a free sample chapter and outline.
Ph Iris on 09 421 1927 or Email: iris@irisbarrow.co.nz or write to
Iris Barrow Counselling and Training Services
Unit 147, 101 Red Beach Rd
Hibiscus coast 0932
Auckland
New Zealand.

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BOOKS ON Confidence, Self Esteem, Goal Setting, Motivation, Anxiety, Depression, Stress, Assertiveness and Communication.

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BOOKS ON
Confidence, Self Esteem, Goal Setting, Motivation, Anxiety, Depression, Stress, Assertiveness and Communication.